Seeking Sister Wife: Everything Vanessa Said About Dimitri's Alleged Abuse (2024)

Vanessa Cobbs joined the calls for Seeking Sister Wife stars Dimitri and Ashley Snowden to face consequences for their alleged abuse, and here is everything that Vanessa has said about the couple. As a former star of one of the best reality TV shows, Vanessa had a complicated relationship with Dimitri and Ashley. While Ashley and Dimitri got back together after their breakup, Vanessa spoke out against Dimitri's alleged domestic abuse. Vanessa first met Dimitri and Ashley on Seeking Sister Wife season 2.

During the season, Vanessa got to know the couple as she decided whether to join their polygamist lifestyle. Ultimately, Vanessa chose to marry Dimitri and be the sister wife that the couple was searching for. Although Dimitri and Ashley may have believed their quest for a second wife was over, Vanessa abruptly exited the marriage after only a few months. Dimitri and Ashley admitted that they were blindsided and devastated by Vanessa's break from them. In light of recent allegations against them, fans speculate that there is more to Vanessa's departure than she let on.

Vanessa Explained Abuse Allegations

Vanessa Originally Didn't Speak Out

In April 2019, Vanessa took to her Instagram in a now-deleted post to explain her reasons for unexpectedly leaving the plural marriage she embraced on the show. Vanessa stated that her break from Dimitri and Ashley came after some soul-searching. Vanessa shared that she still loved Dimitri and Ashley but said that she had ignored her misgivings during the marriage. At first, Vanessa's amicable message appeared to be her last word on that relationship. Then, she spoke out against her former partners.

Vanessa discussed the domestic abuse allegations made against Dimitri and Ashley. Eighteen months after Vanessa left Dimitri and Ashley, the couple continued their search for a sister wife, focusing on South African mother Christeline Petersen. Christeline filled the void Vanessa left during season 3 of the reality series, joining Dimitri and Ashley's polygamous relationship at the end of the season.

Vanessa Has Shown Support For Christeline Petersen

Christeline Filed A Restraining Order Against The Snowdens

To Dimitri and Ashley's dismay, Christeline followed in Vanessa's footsteps, divorcing the Seeking Sister Wife couple shortly after marrying into their family. However, Christeline's relationship with Dimitri and Ashley ended on worse terms than Vanessa's. After leaving them, Christeline filed a restraining order and accused Dimitri and Ashley of abuse. Christeline had trouble proving Dimitri and Ashley's guilt in court, but she has a group of Seeking Sister Wife alumni who strongly support her.

In addition to Dimitri's exes, Tayler Middleton and Ariadne Joseph, condemning the reality star's actions, Vanessa has broken her silence to support Christeline. In a since-deleted Instagram post.

anessa shared, "The same people that did you wrong are telling a different version of the story, and they're playing the victim."

In that post, she added, "If you continually have problems with everyone you come across, more than likely the problem is you.”

Vanessa's now-deleted social media activity indicated that she might have a complicated past with Dimitri and Ashley, which she has not revealed. Additionally, Seeking Sister Wife star Tayler spoke about Dimitri's alleged abuse, and implied that many of the polygamous couple's exes have signed non-disclosure agreements (NDAs). This would explain Vanessa's enigmatic statements about her relationship with Dimitri and Ashley. Vanessa and Ariadne set up a GoFundMe for Christeline as she returned to Africa following her negative experience with Dimitri and Ashley, which raised over $10,000.

From their abrupt breakup to Vanessa's pointed Instagram posts, the former reality star is reclaiming her voice to support Christeline's fight against Dimitri and Ashley. Vanessa's experience on Seeking Sister Wife might not have been what it seemed, but the couple's ex-sister wife stopped holding back, but appears to have moved on from it all now.

In a surprising turn of events, Christeline went on to join the Epps family from Seeking Sister Wife season 4. While she appeared to have courted the family off-camera in 2022, Christeline no longer appears a part of that family. Meanwhile, Vanessa has stopped embracing polygamy and now has a monogamous lifestyle.

Vanessa's Life Now

Vanessa Has Moved On From Her Seeking Sister Wives Past

Vanessa's life looks much different in 2024 than it did in 2018 and 2019 with the Snowdens.

In December 2023, Vanessa posted a collage of photos from her wedding day with her now husband, James Dudfield, who is a Cinematographer. In her Instagram bio, Vanessa described herself as a "WA based Filmmaker," so she and her husband are in the same industry.

Furthermore, Vanessa has 76,000 followers on her verified Instagram account and has been using her fame to her advantage. On her feed, Vanessa frequently promotes brands and companies and appears to have partnerships that likely earn her money. Vanessa has also showcased her passion for the BLM and LGBTQ+ movements and highlights her "Activist" disposition on Instagram. Vanessa is also very involved in her family life. Her twin sister had a baby and she has been a proud auntie.

The Snowdens seemed like an entertaining polygamist family on the show, and viewers watched Vanessa be enchanted with the couple enough to marry them. However, things weren't as they seemed as evidenced by the dramatic fallout. However, Vanessa is removed from that drama today, but still maintains a large following from her time on Seeking Sister Wife.

Source: GoFundMe, Vanessa Cobbs/Instagram

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Reality

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Release Date

January 14, 2018

Cast

Dimitri Snowden , Ashley Snowden , Jeff Alldredge , Vanessa Alldredge , Sharis Alldredge , Colton Winder , Tami Winder , Sophie Winder , Garrick Merrifield , Dannielle Merrifield

Seasons

4

Network

TLC

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