Whether we like it or not, our children see our behaviour and often begin to imitate us. Would you like them to imitate you? Do you think you are a good role model for them in every area? I really feel that instilling good behavior and habits in your children needs to begin with you – you want to model the behavior you want in them and then they will follow through.
Being a Good Role Model in the Way You Treat Your Wife or Husband
The first area where you might want to be a good role model (provided you are not a single parent) is in how you treat your wife, husband or partner. Your children will see the way you react to them, the way you love and respect them and through this they will learn to love and respect you and others.
What Do You Eat (and Drink)?
Diet (and wholesome habits) is another place where you need to be a fantastic role model for your child. If you want them to eat vegetables and fruit but you’re constantly snacking on chocolates and crisps they will feel the hypocrisy and rather than doing what you say they will do what you do.
Do you value honesty, trust and openness? Do you practice these? Or do you lie to your kids and to other adults? If you want your kids to be open and honest with you then you want to teach them these family values through educating them yourself. If a child knows that you’re dishonest then they aren’t going to listen when you tell them to not be – so be a great role model in this area too.
Raising children, and being a good role model for them, is an awesome responsibility. Whatever you want to model in your child, should begin in you first. Take an honest look at yourself and see whether there are things that you are expecting of your child that you’re not anticipating of yourself and then work to fix these. You will be amazed at the difference it makes in your life and in your child’s life.